Divorce

If you are thinking of separating from a spouse or getting a divorce. DON'T DO IT. It really sucks. Nothing seems to go right, because your favorite person is GONE! All those habits that perhaps annoyed you, or those characteristics that drove you crazy...well, everyone has them so get over it, you'll never find perfection (except in Christ). Go against the grain!

You know our media doesn't help out any. Television, celebreties, music, everything is against the family and against marriage. On the other side of the fence, nobody seems to have a problem with two people living together; it is the norm. Instant gratification. The philosophy seems to be, if you're not happy than it's not worth your time. Well, I DISAGREE! You see beauty takes time. A person doesn't become beautiful overnite! And a marriage, well a marriage isn't always beautiful, people do stupid things, say mean things, but be the Bigger person, grow up and forgive. God put you together for a reason, and He makes all things beautiful in His time (Ecc. 3:11). Ecclesiasties says seven times to enjoy your spouse, enjoy life and as a result you'll be happy.

I miss my husband more than anything. He is my best friend. My favorite thing used to be ending up in the same bed together after a long day. I always knew I could talk to him, tell him anything. Now I journal and pray, which is great too, but it's not the same. You know?

Don't be selfish. Stay true to the one you fell in love with, they may be really screwing up right now, but he/she will come around in time. I receive advice everyday like, "Well he must not have been worth it, just move on." Bullcrap. And where will that get me...Ten years down the road still filled with regret and pain, twenty pounds heavier, wrinkles from crinkled eyebrows rather than smiles and in a relationship with someone that I have to force myself to love. No thanks.

"Marriage is honorable among all and the bed undefiled." Hebrews 13:4a